Shaken Baby Syndrome (Newborn Head Trauma)

Coping with Crying and Protecting Your Baby

All babies cry—it’s how they communicate hunger, tiredness, or discomfort. But sometimes, crying can feel overwhelming. It’s important to know that getting frustrated is normal, and there are safe ways to cope.

What Is Shaken Baby Syndrome?

Shaken baby syndrome (also called abusive head trauma) happens when a baby is shaken. This can injure the brain, eyes, neck, and spine and may cause serious, lasting harm or even death.

Never shake a baby.

Crying is normal, and it’s okay to feel tense or overwhelmed—but shaking a baby is never safe.

Make sure everyone who cares for your baby understands the danger.

Learn More about Protecting Your Baby from Shaken Baby Syndrome

What to Do If You Feel Stressed

If you’re feeling angry, frustrated, or at your limit, try these steps:

• Take a deep breath and count to 10. Try box breathing to calm your body.
• Place your baby on their back in a safe space, like a crib or pack-and-play. It’s okay for your baby to cry alone for 10–15 minutes.
• Do something soothing for yourself while your baby is in a safe place—listen to music, meditate, or take a quick shower.
• Ask for help. Reach out to a partner, friend, or family member for support.
• Call someone to talk. Sharing how you feel can help release tension.
• Call the Parents Helping Parents Parental Stress Line at 800.632.8188 (available 24/7, free, and confidential).
• Check on your baby every 5 to 10 minutes.
• Wait until you feel calm before you pick them up.

When you’re ready, hold your baby gently and try to soothe them.

When to Get Help

If you’re feeling stressed, anxious, or depressed, support is always available.

If you would like additional parenting advice and encouragement, you can receive direct texts from The Basics. Ask your provider for help signing up.