Siblings During Labor and Birth

Including Children in the Birth Experience

Welcoming a new baby is exciting, and it’s natural to wonder whether your other children should be part of the birth experience. Some families find it meaningful for siblings to be present, while others prefer that children visit after the baby arrives.

Should My Children Be at Their Sibling’s Birth?

Personality: Is your child calm, nervous, or anxious around doctors, nurses, or hospital equipment?
Maturity: Can your child sit through the birth without needing your attention? Will they let you focus on giving birth?
Understanding: Can your child understand what happens during birth? Will the sounds or sights make them upset?
Involvement: Do you want your child to watch closely, or just be nearby?
Feelings: Is your child excited about a new sibling? Or do they feel jealous or worried? Being at the birth could increase stress.

Birth Environment and Support

Caregiver: Who will care for your child during labor and birth?
- At BMC, children 14 and older may attend births.
- Children under 14 need special approval and a caregiver with them at all times.
- Talk to your care provider if you want your child there.
Your needs: Think about what will help you feel safe and focused during birth. Put yourself first.

Be Ready for the Unexpected

Uncertainty: Birth plans can change. You may change your mind about having your child there.
Emergencies: If there is an emergency, children must leave right away.
Back-up plan: Birth can be intense. Some kids may feel scared or overwhelmed. Plan for a safe space or a support person they can go to.
When in labor: Decide if you want your child there for all of labor, only at the moment of birth, or right after the baby is born.

Planning for Your Child

Rules: Explain hospital rules to your kids. They must be healthy—if sick, they should stay home.
Classes: A sibling preparation class can help kids know what they may see and hear. A childbirth educator can offer a one-on-one session for your family.
Involvement: Include your child in planning and in welcoming the baby.
Routine: Birth may change nap times or bedtimes. Think about how this could affect your child.

After the Birth

Right after birth: Children may come in to meet the baby.
Visiting hours: Kids can visit during normal visiting hours, but cannot sleep at the hospital.
NICU: Children under 14 cannot visit the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU).

For some families, welcoming a new baby together is a special memory. Talk with your care provider if you are thinking about having your child at the birth.